For the last few years, I have noticed that around prom season, kids today have gotten completely outrageous with their prom attire. The girls wear risque gowns that leave little to the imagination, and look like they’re getting ready to walk the red carpet at the Oscars, while the boys have decided that wearing flooding pants that would make Steve Urkel proud and colorful shoes that match their tux jackets or their dates dress is cool. As I scroll down my Facebook timelime, I have definitely raised a slightly judgmental eyebrow at some of the prom gowns that I’ve seen. Then, there are the promposals- which I didn’t know was a thing until my 17 year old son started making a big deal over how to ask his girlfriend to prom.I mean, putting a girl on the spot and asking her to prom in unique, yet doing entirely too much type of way might seem like a good idea, but what if she says no? Young folks these days are so overly sensitive- especially the boys. Girls and women are literally being killed for declining a guy’s advances.
Now, I did encourage my son to ask his girlfriend to prom, even though they have dated on-again, off-again (more off than on) throughout the school year. A girl will always remember certain things, for as long as she lives, and her prom and how she was asked is one of those things. Many, many years ago when I was still in high school, I never got asked to prom at all, and twenty years later, I’m still a little salty about that. But I ain’t bitter. I had fun anyway, but getting asked to prom to a teen girl is like a man getting down on his knee and asking a woman to marry him- it’s kind of a big deal. So, I did tell my son to ask the girl to prom, I just had no idea that teens today go out of their way with ridiculous promposals. Just asking would have been enough for me, but no…these 2k16 kids are so over-the-top with everything. After going over several ideas, which included him cooking her a candle-light dinner (side-eye) I think he kept his pretty simple by making a poster of photos of the two of them, with WILL YOU GO TO PROM WITH ME in the center; but I saw some that were even more outrageous than that.
I knew I was going to have to dig deep in my wallet and I wanted him to have a good time, and look nice, but I wasn’t willing to spend the equivalent of a month’s pay for him to do so, like many parents do. I’m convinced that some parents view prom as being more about them than the kid; they want to flaunt on social media, showing everybody how much they’ve spent…almost like a my-kids-prom-is-better-than-yours type of thing. Honey, I had no time for those shenanigans.It’s just one night, and these are kids. Why in the hell are girls getting $200.00 weaves, $1,000.00 gowns, and stretch Hummer limos? It’s just not that serious to me. Hey, if you got it like that, more power to you…do you. But I think this is just added pressure for these kids to be better than the next child, as if high school isn’t hard enough these days. For both my junior and senior proms, my dresses were rented, I had Payless dyable shoes to match the color of my dress, and I thought I was all that and a bag of chips (gosh I just showed my age with that phrase) I have a daughter- she’s 11 going on 30- and I can’t wait to see my baby girl go to her prom, but I won’t go broke once that time comes. Beauty isn’t and shouldn’t be based on how much you spend, but due to social media and the need to compete in every aspect of life, I don’t suspect this trend will go away any time soon.